There is no difference, in the issur of speaking lashon hara, as to whether the speaker is a man or a woman, a relative or not related, though commonly one who is demeaned will not take offense if the speaker is motivated by the family love that unites them. And it is also the way of a relative that when he speaks to one about his kin, his intent is not to demean him, but to be zealous for the truth, it being his view that his relative acted wrongly to another in a certain matter. Still, if he [the speaker] erred in judgment in this respect, i.e., if he was too hasty to incriminate his relative when he was really guiltless, this does not leave the category of absolute lashon hara.
אֵין חִלּוּק בְּאִסוּר סִפּוּר לָשׁוֹן הָרָע, בֵּין אִם הַמְסַפֵּר אִישׁ אוֹ (א) אִשָּׁה, קָרוֹב אוֹ רָחוֹק, אַף דִּרְגִילוּת הוּא כַּמָּה פְּעָמִים, (ב) שֶׁלֹּא יַקְפִּיד הָאִישׁ, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר הַגְּנוּת עָלָיו, עַל הַמְסַפֵּר מִצַּד אַהֲבַת הַקֻּרְבָה אֲשֶׁר בֵּינֵיהֶם, וְגַם דֶרֶךְ קָרוֹב הוּא, כְּשֶׁמְסַפֵּר לְאֶחָד עַל קְרוֹבוֹ, אֵינֶנּוּ מְכַוֵּן לְגַנּוֹתוֹ בְּעֶצֶם, רַק מִפְּנִי קִנְאַת הָאֱמֶת, שֶׁלְּפִי דַּעְתּוֹ, שֶׁלֹּא כַּהֹגֶן עָשָׂה לְאִישׁ פְּלוֹנִי בְּעִנְיַן פְּלוֹנִי, אַף עַל פִּי כֵן (ג) אִם טָעָה בְּדִמְיוֹנוֹ בָּזֶה, דְּהַיְנוּ, שֶׁמִּהֵר לְהַחְלִיטוֹ לְכַף חוֹב, וְעַל פִּי אֱמֶת לֹא הָיָה חַיָּב בָּזֶה, אֵין דָּבָר זֶה יוֹצֵּא מִכְּלַל לָשׁוֹן הָרָע גְּמוּרָה.
There is no difference, in the issur of speaking lashon hara, as to whether the speaker is a man or a woman, a relative or not related, though commonly one who is demeaned will not take offense if the speaker is motivated by the family love that unites them. And it is also the way of a relative that when he speaks to one about his kin, his intent is not to demean him, but to be zealous for the truth, it being his view that his relative acted wrongly to another in a certain matter. Still, if he [the speaker] erred in judgment in this respect, i.e., if he was too hasty to incriminate his relative when he was really guiltless, this does not leave the category of absolute lashon hara.